Hold Me Tight®
“The key to restoring connection is, first, interrupting and dismantling these destructive sequences and then actively constructing a more emotionally open and receptive way of interacting, one in which partners feel safe confiding their hidden fears and longings.” -Sue Johnson PhD
Imagine if you could be heard by your partner and they could really hear you. If you could understand your partner better than anyone, and re-ignite that physical attraction & love between you.
Let us help you get there starting April 17th & 18th in Sacramento, CA in our couples workshop. These workshops have helped many couples already and we would love to help you strengthen your relationship and lives together.
Hold Me Tight® is a workshop for couples. We invite couples of any age, race, gender or gender preference to attend an upcoming workshop. We believe the Hold Me Tight® method will benefit anyone - partners, married couples and those getting married.
Knowing what is causing the frustration and distance between you & your partner and then conquering that together can help you get back to enjoying your lives. It is possible to increase career, family, and relationship success when we have a secure place to launch from and a secure relationship to come home to.
Being the best you can be is only possible when you're connected. So much happens when you and your partner are unified, can communicate, and are able to invite secure connection.
Is it time to strengthen your relationship & develop new ways to communicate to invite more understanding, security, and passion into your relationship? The Hold Me Tight® can help you get there. The Hold Me Tight Workshop® was created by Dr. Sue Johnson, based on the Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, and helps couples locally and internationally develop a closeness & connection that can weather the storms of life together. You will learn about attachment, work intimately with your partner, see video demonstrations of couples, & learn tools to move through conflict & hurts to help you get back to enjoying each other more.
Imagine being able to talk to your partner & share all of your feelings. What if you could really get to the bottom of your disagreements & be able to understand your partner better than anyone. Imagine if you could reignite the physical connection with your partner. Imagine if they could understand you and you felt heard. This feeling of confidence can help you work through any challenges that arise when life hands you lemons or moments of conflicts or disconnection arise.
I want you to know that true happiness is attainable when you are willing to face the issues that are standing in your way. My goal is to be your mirror and help you have conversations that help you see what you can’t see on your own so you can start on the path to be the best version of your self with your partner.
The workshop will take place from
4pm-9pm on Friday & 10am-5pm on Saturday
April 17 & 18, 2020
What Is Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT)?
The message of EFT is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, making grand romantic gestures, or experimenting with new sexual positions. Instead, recognize and admit that you are emotionally attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent for nurturing, soothing, and protection. EFT focuses on creating and strengthening this emotional bond by identifying and transforming the key moments that foster an adult loving relationship.
• EFT has an astounding 70 – 75% success rate and results have been shown to last, even in the face of significant stress.
• EFT is recognized by the American Psychological Association as empirically proven.
Hold Me Tight presents a streamlined version of EFT. It walks the reader through seven conversations that capture the defining moments in a love relationship and instructs how to shape these moments to create a secure and lasting bond. Case histories and exercises in each conversation bring the lessons of EFT to life.
Seven Transforming Conversations:
Recognizing Demon Dialogues—In this first conversation, couples identify negative and destructive remarks in order to get to the root of the problem and figure out what each other is really trying to say.
Finding the Raw Spots—Here, each partner learns to look beyond immediate, impulsive reactions to figure out what raw spots are being hit.
Revisiting a Rocky Moment—This conversation provides a platform for de-escalating conflict and repairing rifts in a relationship and building emotional safety.
Hold Me Tight—The heart of the program: this conversation moves partners into being more accessible, emotionally responsive, and deeply engaged with each other.
Forgiving Injuries—Injuries may be forgiven but they never disappear. Instead, they need to become integrated into couples’ conversations as demonstrations of renewal and connection. Knowing how to find and offer forgiveness empowers couples to strengthen their bond.
Bonding Through Sex and Touch—Here, couples find how emotional connection creates great sex, and good sex creates deeper emotional connection.
Keeping Your Love Alive—This last conversation is built on the understanding that love is a continual process of losing and finding emotional connection; it asks couples to be deliberate and mindful about maintaining connection.
$650 per couple
The price for the weekend includes:
A workbook full of information, guidance and helpful exercises.
Engaging presentations, video demonstrations of other real life couples, and the opportunity for many private exercises and conversations with your partner.
We will be available to give you personal support and guidance as needed.
Continental breakfast, coffee, tea and light snacks will be provided throughout the day. Lunch is on your own. Please feel free to bring your own snacks and drinks as well.
11 hours of workshop time.
What To Expect:
The Hold Me Tight® Workshop is designed around seven conversations based on the Hold Me Tight book, all of which have been shown to be essential to successful relationships. You will learn how to understand and improve your relationship by presentations by the workshop leaders, private exercises and conversations with your partner and by watching video demonstrations of other couples.
Although the workshop encourages questions and comments, you do not need to speak in the group if you do not wish to. All of the dialogues with your partner will be done in private, we emphasize privacy, confidentiality and comfort.
You will learn to identify the “dance” that has kept you locked in anger and isolation and learn to change the steps that are keeping you both from getting your attachment needs met. You will find the safety to be vulnerable, soften and open to giving and receiving care from each other. You will tap into your deeper needs and longings and learn to communicate them and respond to them in each other.